my new friend rachel practices buddhist meditation (one of the reasons why i think she's awesome and we get along so well). she, in conjunction with a book i just finished, have inspired me to work a little harder on my meditation and i think it's been more helpful than i realized.
there's this method of buddhist meditation called "loving-kindess" meditation. there's a saying that goes with it, "may you feel protected and safe. may you feel contented and pleased. may your body support you with strength. may your life unfold smoothly and with ease."
what you do is you first direct those words and feelings towards yourself. i generally repeat it in my head a few times...then you direct them at someone who is troubled, or in need. then you direct them to a neutral person, then to an enemy. i think directing them toward my enemy has helped a lot...those who know my blog, know my enemy (homewrecker).
i've started to direct those feelings towards her, and meanwhile, i've realized that she is suffering enough (in the yogic view) and that i'm only creating more suffering within myself by having these aggressive feelings toward her. [suffering in the yogic sense includes things like greed, aversion, having a distorted view of reality, etc.]
it's an interesting thought...